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I love my life....do you love yours?

     

    Ladies, i think we have all heard the saying "Happy Wife, Happy life" and i know its not always true. Some of us are not spoiled rotten, i know i'm not HA okay maybe a little spoiled.. i cant help it though, i have a man who SPOILS me..

     Any who, on Monday we hit our 7th year of marriage and we sat down and reflected on A LOT. Our past, present,future. through out our marriage, we have both learned to hold back, i think the first 3 years of our marriage were the hardest. I mean we dated a year on and off and then decided one day lets get married literally 1 month later we were married.  SO there wasn't a whole lot of room to talk about those deep uncovered issues, worries ect. 

SO those very things "baggage" per say, literally ripped our marriage a new one. I mean, we literally had NO idea how to treat, talk, comfort one another. Granted we did lose our first baby a few months into our marriage, so THAT did bring us closer. But i remember at one point i laid in bed, thinking "what did i get myself into" 3 dedicated, almost  2 children in(pregnant).. We had no idea who we were as a "unit".. i couldn't even stand to look at him.. That was a scary place..
   
    I think what really turned us around, we literally hit rock bottom financially. WE were living with a relative, we slept on a futon us 3. living paycheck to paycheck,our car was on the edge of breaking down. LIFE  was a WRECK and so were we.. We were at rock bottom for about 3 months.

     Things started to look a lot better once we found a rental house. that was at the end of 2012 beginning 2013. Times were tough still, but NOT anywhere close to what it was before this house. We rented that house for 2 years, and through out our time there. we worked through a lot of issues. got to the root of A LOT. 

It was Literally Gods Grace that saved us and our Marriage.
 
Today i can tell you more about my husband that he can tell you about himself. He still DOES NOT listen sometimes, that's why i am queen Bossy haha. 
but I LOVE HIM! 
Today we are 7 years deep 4 boys in and SO happy, we may struggle from time to time. need help from family, have a broken down car here and there and DON'T always have our Stuff together. 
But were always real about our situations, we never hide the fact that some weeks we need more help and Gods Grace than others. We always look each other face to face and are completely truthful. weather its how he makes me feel, hurt feelings, irritation..there is NOT one thing i can not tell him. 


 
Here are 20 things that i found online, when we first started going through a rough patch. it has worked and STILL does. it is effective and i thought id share. 

1. Greet him warmly
2.Offer a kind word
3.Give thanks
4.Speak the truth
5.Look at the bright side
6.Shrug off small annoyances
7.Snuggle together
8.Serve Cheerfully
9.Pray for each other
10.Listen Carefully
11.Apologize humbly
12.Kiss on the Lips
13.Laugh at each others jokes
14.Give a soft answer
15.Step away together
16.Smile at him
17.Forgive fully
18.Spend time together
19.Build up
20.Decide you're going to Love each other

XOXO Cec

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